What's Harder: Being Dumped or Breaking Up With Someone? | Sex and the City | The CW Indianapolis

What's Harder: Being Dumped or Breaking Up With Someone?

Both are hard, but which is worse?

Both are equally hard
"I feel as though both have their hardships. When you break up with someone, usually you're not in love with that person anymore so in that fact it can be easier. But what happens when you still love that person and you break up with them because the relationship is going nowhere? I've been there and it is so hard. You're torn 'cause you still love this person but you know that it's not working or it's just not right. What happens when you see them with someone else? It's like someone is ripping your heart out your chest. Then you have the being dumped part. Of course, that is always hurtful especially when you don't see it coming. It's as if you're being blindsided. Then you're left with all these overwhelming emotions, and you don't know what to do with them. I find both situations to be equally hard."

Being dumped: especially when you have no clue it's coming
"I think being dumped is harder than breaking up with someone. Especially when you have no clue that it is coming. I was in a relationship with a guy for six years, and one day he just up and decided that he didn't feel anything for me anymore and he needed to move on with his life. This happened over one year ago and I still haven't gotten completely over it. I thought he was the one -- we shared the same interests and we had so much in common. The hardest part is, I have no idea what changed between us. At least if you break up with someone, your feelings are a little more protected."

Breaking up, when it's hard on the other person
"For me, the hardest thing was to break up with someone. I was dumped in the past, but it didn't hurt as much as the previous relationship before my fiancé.The last breakup was so hard on the man that he kept on crying and called me every day to see if I could take him back. I feel that it is hard to break up with someone because I feel bad for the person. I hate having people feel bad -- but if I feel that I am being hurt in the relationship, then I need to get out before it gets worse."

Being dumped: it's a major shot to your self-esteem
"I think by far, being dumped is the worst. It is a major shot to your self-esteem. Of course, it's even worse when the person who is doing the dumping doesn't call to do the deed. Women need closure!! I mean we are all adults; sure if someone tells you he doesn't want to see you anymore, of course it's going to hurt, but it hurts worse if the person doesn't think you need to know. I really think worse of the person who thinks we are too delicate to be broken up with... Breaking up with someone, as far as I'm concerned, is not easy, but we owe it to the other person to be up front and not dodge the situation. I wish some of the men I dated would have been up front with me; I would respect them more!"